THE BENEFITS OF BEING SINGLE
21 July 2007
This is my life. Or should it be:
This is my life!!
I prefer the second.
God, life is so easy when you are in a relationship. Of course relationships can, undeniably, be difficult too, but usually not on an individual or existential level. When you are with someone, you are not alone. Obvious, but it can have significant implications on your life: For example, not having to worry about feeling alone or not having anyone to do things together with. Someone is always there for you. When you have eachother, there are always nice things to do.
Life as a single is just so different. Not only in the Sex and the City type of way. After having been in a relationship you totally have to re-adjust your routines and how you spend your time. It's important to be pro-active and make plans to meet people and socialise. Especially if you live alone and/or work in a small office.
I have always enjoyed my own company, but I have never had my own flat before and it was a long time ago I was single. I love my new 'nest' and I start realising what a healthy experience it is to live on my own: It's not only related to how nice it is not having to see other peoples' mess or, when in a relationship, always taking your other half into the calculation. It's more that that.
It's existential. It's about not being able to escape yourself. It's about coming to terms with yourself. When being single and living alone, those less positive things that 'clogged up' your life before are gone! It's me and me = I am free do what ever I want and feel like. It almost feels like holding a baby in your hands, being able to raise it to what you want it to become. And the baby is me.
Of course I'd prefer to be with the person I love because sharing lives, experiences and everyday thoughts is beautiful. But at this point of my life I feel it's very healthy for me to be on my own. I am trying to take full charge of my time and make the most out of it. Sooner or later, I'll be in a relationship again and then it will be difficult to find the time to do certain things for myself.
21 July 2007
This is my life. Or should it be:
This is my life!!
I prefer the second.
God, life is so easy when you are in a relationship. Of course relationships can, undeniably, be difficult too, but usually not on an individual or existential level. When you are with someone, you are not alone. Obvious, but it can have significant implications on your life: For example, not having to worry about feeling alone or not having anyone to do things together with. Someone is always there for you. When you have eachother, there are always nice things to do.
Life as a single is just so different. Not only in the Sex and the City type of way. After having been in a relationship you totally have to re-adjust your routines and how you spend your time. It's important to be pro-active and make plans to meet people and socialise. Especially if you live alone and/or work in a small office.
I have always enjoyed my own company, but I have never had my own flat before and it was a long time ago I was single. I love my new 'nest' and I start realising what a healthy experience it is to live on my own: It's not only related to how nice it is not having to see other peoples' mess or, when in a relationship, always taking your other half into the calculation. It's more that that.
It's existential. It's about not being able to escape yourself. It's about coming to terms with yourself. When being single and living alone, those less positive things that 'clogged up' your life before are gone! It's me and me = I am free do what ever I want and feel like. It almost feels like holding a baby in your hands, being able to raise it to what you want it to become. And the baby is me.
Of course I'd prefer to be with the person I love because sharing lives, experiences and everyday thoughts is beautiful. But at this point of my life I feel it's very healthy for me to be on my own. I am trying to take full charge of my time and make the most out of it. Sooner or later, I'll be in a relationship again and then it will be difficult to find the time to do certain things for myself.
posted by Cat @ Saturday, July 21, 2007
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